The school culture is rigid and judgmental, with a culture of pathologizing normal toddler behavior. Some of the things that made us withdraw our 3yo mid-year:
Despite a stated open-door policy, parents were actively discouraged from involvement in or visiting the classroom. In March, a formal school memo forbade parents from speaking to each other at drop-off/pickup, asked parents to drop their children off at the front door instead of at the classroom door, and instructed parents not to carry their children or their children's belongings. The memo specifically suggested that any discipline problems at home were caused by not following the same rigid "expectations" as the school.
When our son was afraid to use the toilet at school, the teacher forced him to sit on the toilet for 45 min while he cried in frustration.
He was criticized for not doing work exactly the way the teachers wanted (e.g. sorting puzzle in the “right” order).
In a parent conference, we were told our son was “too literal” because asked where rain came from, he said “From the sky,” not “From clouds.”
He was already reading and adding at 3, but we were told this, along with his shyness, were signs of a possible psychological problem. We were bullied to take him for autism screening, even after a specialist and our pediatrician said he was likely fine.
Administration, up to the head of school, either ignored problems or blamed us. When we sent a formal letter detailing our complaints, the school offered us a partial tuition refund if we signed a nondisparagement agreement. We refused.
Once we changed schools, our son began to open up. We’ve since learned other families had similar experiences.