I really feel like I was not listened to by the therapist.
17 years ago, when I went to a therapist with my wife she acted as an interpreter for us. Every time I said something, she would turn and translate it to my wife in a language that she could understand. And when my wife said something she would turn and translate it to me in a language that I could understand.
Despite my wife's infidelity we came out of that situation more in love than we had ever been. We only had one session together, but it changed our marriage and made it wonderful for several years. Unfortunately, we grew apart again because we did not continue going to regular therapy sessions.
However, the therapy session that we had recently really made me feel ganged up on. I felt like I couldn't communicate my needs. I was constantly told that I wasn't listening to what my wife was saying, when she wants to end our 20-year marriage. But at the same time nobody was willing to listen to me or help me be heard as I begged for additional counseling before throwing away our marriage. I was just told that I was pursuing too hard and I needed to step back.
I did not feel as if I came out of the experience having learned any tools for communication with the woman who is the most important thing in my life. I am now heartbroken and have agreed to a 6-month separation where we will live in different states before going ahead with the divorce and throwing away 20 years of marriage with my dream girl, all because I couldn't talk to her.
And these therapists were no help.