First of all, I recently came out and I was just looking for a good “gay friendly” place to feel more comfortable. (I’ve been to Indy a few months ago and I loved it, thought I’d give it a try in Birmingham.)
So, I walk in hoping to meet some new nice people.
First thing I notice as I survey the room. i
It didn’t bother me.
I figured I would get 2 drinks and I would go.
(My friend Bill was waiting outside for me)
So, I sit down, as I am sitting I see that the Blond hair heavy set bartender notices me and I just ask for a water (I am not sure if I want to spend my money at this place because I am already a little uneasy also
I was kind of nervous)
So I’m just sitting there drinking my water and I see the same heavy set bartender notice that I’m just observing the room. She see’s me in her peripherals and it feels like I’m making her a little uncomfortable? Even though I am just keeping to myself? and I’m just trying not to come off as awkward.
I guess I looked like a loner and I looked a little down (I had a rough day) but the older men seemed not to mind me. I mostly kept to myself.
I go to put some songs on the jukebox. And I come back to order my second drink so I could get ready to go because my friend Bill was still waiting outside (20-30 mintutes had passed) I wait there and no one seems to want to help me.
I tried to explain to her that if I seemed a little off that I smoked a little earlier, that if my eyes looked a little red that’s the reason why.
I only had one shot of vodka (when I asked for whiskey)
I came to this “gay friendly bar” looking to feel comfortable and accepted.
That is not
at all what I felt here.