We were so excited to start my 2 yr old in Ballet classes as she loves to dance. This would have been her first time in any classroom type of atmosphere and even a setting around other girls her age (she’s been an only child for a while). She does have delayed speech, but is very interactive and involved, although it has affected her ability to stay focused. We hoped this would allow her to learn and progress.
Her first class she got into everything thing, but with every class she participated a little bit more and more. Of course a lot slower than the other girls in the class. The instructors approach is to not force the girls to participate, so my daughter did her own thing the entire class without any encouragement to join in. I watched and waited to see if she would try to include her, but that was never her approach.
One particular class my daughter wandered off and did her own thing with the hula hoops and some of the other girls followed. I felt really bad because I didn’t want her to be a distraction but that’s exactly what she was doing. As soon as the class was done all of the Mother’s went downstairs to accompany their daughters to tea time. To my surprise the instructor walked out and decided it was appropriate to announce in front of everyone that my daughter “was not ready for this class and needed to attend another class” I was completely caught off guard and totally embarrassed.
I couldn’t believe she said that in front of everyone, and wasn’t very nice about it. I walked into the bathroom and just cried because it made me feel like a failure as a mother. I felt ashamed and as if I didn’t prepare my daughter to behave properly in these classes.
My daughter loved the classes, but I realized maybe she really wasn’t ready for this type of learning atmosphere and needs a more hands on type. This ballet class is not that, which is totally fine, but I didn’t need to be told in front of everyone that my daughter was not ready-it was inappropriate and disheartening. We are going to find somewhere else to take her. Sadly I paid till May and we will now be out of that money.